A group of rapists and date
rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim
and here are some interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look
for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a
woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be
grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with
short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look
for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove
quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women
on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities
while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) The time of day men are
most likely to attack and rape a woman is in the early morning, between 5 and
8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place
women are abduct from/attacked at is grocery store parking lots. Number two is
office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men
is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second
location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried
weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is
15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of
a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for
them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be
time-consuming.
9) These men said they would
not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used
from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to
get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to
convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense
mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or
in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and
ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't
believe it is so cold out here we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their
face and could identify them in a line-up, you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming
toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back!
Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she
yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are
looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper
spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes, yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and
holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you,
you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are
grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm
between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD.
One woman in a class this
guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date
rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle
strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard
as you can stand it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit,
always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that
if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful You might think that you'll
anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more but the thing these rapists
told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his
hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as
possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor
did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both
knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we
always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone
with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with
your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much
worse if the guy really was trouble.
A friend sent this to me:
I saw a safety expert on
Oprah's show, and he stresses that if someone gets in the car with you and even with a gun or knife, tells you to
drive somewhere, run into a wall, another car, a lamppost, something! He
will more than likely jump out and run like hell.
Remember, if he ever gets
you in a secluded area, you are DEAD!
So a damaged car is better
than being dead. These psychos can also read women and can spot a
"pigeon" who will come up to the car to see what's wrong..
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